Services

"To ask the right question is already half the solution to a problem." C.G. Jung

Transformation

“I-We”: Individual Transformation

Helping you find and cultivate your best self so that you can be in fulfilling, lasting relationships in all forms–but most of all, with yourself.

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Strengthening “Us”–Couple Work

Reinforcing the bond between you and your partner by filling any cracks in your foundation and recovering from any traumas, such as significant losses or betrayals.

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Marriage on the Brink

Unlike traditional Couples Therapy, Discernment Counseling (DC) offers a quick, accurate, and thorough diagnosis of your situation and lays out all available paths forward and their possible outcomes.

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Divorce and Separation

Divorce Services

Helping your family through the process of divorce including “breaking the news”, matching you up with the right divorce process and professionals, creating a more collaborative narrative, and determining next steps.

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"I-We": Individual Transformation

Helping you find and cultivate your best self so that you can be in fulfilling, lasting relationships in all forms–but most of all, with yourself. Here’s how:

  • Uncover faulty ideas that cause struggle and pain. (e.g., “All confrontation is dangerous, so I will never express any disappointment in relationships”, leading to feeling perpetually disappointed and unloved.
  • Discover and prioritize your needs and wants in the following areas of life:
    • Love
    • Marriage
    • Relationships
    • Family
    • Sexuality
    • Confrontation
    • Loss
    • Responsibility/Obligation
    • Power
    • Self-Worth
  • Discover more accurate ideas and develop tools and skills for use in everyday life
    • New insights and in vivo experiences rapidly develop new skills and muscles, akin to learning and practicing a dance routine with a partner or sparring before the main event.

Strengthening "Us"–Couple Work

Reinforcing the bond between you and your partner by filling any cracks in your foundation and recovering from any traumas, such as significant losses or betrayals.

A systemic approach helps us understand the purpose of “bad” behavior, often the result of missed attempts to connect or a defense against perceived attacks from the other spouse.

When both partners agree to make changes you can mend and strengthen your relationship to achieve the deep connection and adventure you both seek.

After an initial 4-session assessment, we work together to create your unique treatment plan. It centers around creating basic couple trust and safety, and implementing repair and forgiveness plans designed to restore friendship and passion.

We ditch outdated ideas of love and marriage created by romantic comedies and Facebook posts and replace them with the keys to lasting, fulfilling love.

Lasting love isn’t a unicorn; with commitment to the right path, it can be attained!

Marriage on the Brink

Unlike traditional Couples Therapy, Discernment Counseling (DC) offers a quick, accurate, and thorough diagnosis of your situation and lays out all available paths forward and their possible outcomes.

It’s a short term (1-5 sessions) approach where the goal is not to try to save the marriage, but rather, to see whether the marriage is savable.

There are three paths forward:

  • Path 1: Make no marital changes – neither work on the marriage nor divorce.
  • Path 2: Separate or divorce.
  • Path 3: Make a hail-Mary, “leave everything on the field” effort at saving your marriage through a 6-month course of couples therapy with divorce off the table.

DC’s unique structure where a couple arrives together but works individually, allows for new insights into each spouse’s contributions to the marital crisis and for exploring which path forward makes the most sense for you and your family.

The goal is to help each person make decisions from a place of peace and calm and with clarity and confidence.

Divorce Services

Helping your family through the process of divorce including “breaking the news”, matching you up with the right divorce process and professionals, creating a more collaborative narrative, and determining next steps.

Unlike traditional divorce procedures, collaborative divorce coaching adopts tried and true conflict resolution and negotiation tools and protocols to each unique situation. Compassionate and pragmatic approaches to skill building enable your family to set the pace, agenda, and goals, while leaning on your therapist to teach, guide, and ensure security and and health on the path into a new reality. Both spouses are supported and respected; NO BLAMING OR SHAMING.

When requested and useful, collaborative divorce coaching is done in conjunction with financial advisers and family-friendly attorneys.

Frequently Asked Questions

What happens next?

After you send me your inquiry, I’ll reach out to you by phone.  Before we sit down and move forward with a session, I’ll get to know you and your situation better to ensure that I am the right person to help you. Having a sense of how you will know if therapy is working will help us hit the ground running (e.g., what specific changes–internally or externally–would you notice?). If for any reason I am not the right match for you, I will help you find someone who is.

How long do sessions last and how many will I need?

Sessions are scheduled for 60 or 90 minutes and collaboratively continue for as many or as few as are appropriate in order to reach your goals.  Individual therapy works best on a weekly basis in order to create a solid foundation at the start of therapy and often get less frequent as you progress. I’m ready to help you tackle your current struggles (e.g., helping you simply get out of the “bad”, or to break sensitive news to loved ones) or will guide you further to teach you how to achieve lasting happiness and fulfillment. I will be available to you for however long you need to reach your goals.  You create the agenda, I guide the journey.  (Note:  Discernment Counseling sessions are distinct–see fee schedule below).

Is there anything I need to do to prepare for a session?

Not a thing!  Your job is to show up and be yourself – that’s it!

There is no “wrong way” of using therapy as long as you show up. My role as your supportive mirror will be to facilitate your path and only judge you on your effectiveness in communicating, never your motives or your “goodness”.  As we approach your challenges head on, you can breathe freely, lean on me, and borrow my curiosity, compassion, knowledge, and glasses until they become your own and you have freed yourself from the struggle. In each session, we’ll keep putting one foot in front of the other until you’ve reached your mountaintop.

What will I get out of this?

The goal for your time with me is for you to borrow my lenses so that you can see who you are, make choices in alignment with your values, and feel confident in making your life decisions. You will learn to trust yourself and motives, to quickly identify when you are off track, and how to change gears when necessary.  I will help you see that you are capable of making those choices yourself as you move forward in life.

What do your services cost? Do you take insurance?

I no longer accept any health insurance. As an “out-of-network” provider, you and I are in control of what is needed to improve your life and relationships, including how long you need to meet those goals. If you have out-of-network benefits, your insurance company may reimburse you for my services.  If you seek such reimbursements, I will supply you with an invoice that you can submit to your insurance company.  Please consult with your insurance provider to determine what level of coverage you have and their process for reimbursement.

Cash, check, credit cards or HSA debit cards are accepted.

Current Fee Schedule:

Individual psychotherapy $175 per 60 minute session, $275 per 90 minute session

Couples therapy $225 per 60 minute session

Discernment Counseling $250 per hour; first session is 2 hours, any subsequent sessions are 1.5 hours long (D.C. sessions run 1-5 sessions maximum)

When and how can I book appointments?

Office Hours:

Monday/Tuesday 9am-7pm

Wednesday/Thursday:  9am-5:30pm

Phone, email or text through my website is best for a first contact. I require a phone screen before deciding to meet, since I want to make sure that I am the right person to help you. After we begin, however, you are free to schedule through my online scheduler. While the above hours are my general schedule, I am happy to be flexible in extending the hours when needed and when it works for me.

Where can I find you?

I am located at 105 Church Street in the beautiful, serene and charming town of Guilford, CT. My office is just to the right of the corner of Route 1 (Boston Post Road) and Route 77 (Church St), in a large white house that houses other professional offices. My office is in the back, where there is a small parking lot for free and easy parking.

Fees

I no longer accept any health insurance.”  As an “out-of-network” provider, you and I are in control of what is needed to improve your life and relationships, including how long you need to meet those goals. If you have out-of-network benefits, your insurance company may reimburse you for my services.  If you seek such reimbursements, I will supply you with an invoice that you can submit to your insurance company.  Please consult with your insurance provider to determine what level of coverage you have and their process for reimbursement.

Cash, check, credit cards or HSA debit cards are accepted.

Current Fee Schedule:

Individual psychotherapy $175 per 60 minute session, $275 per 90 minute session

Couples therapy $225 per 60 minute session

Discernment Counseling $250 per hour; first session is 2 hours, any subsequent sessions are 1.5 hours long (D.C. sessions run 1-5 sessions maximum)