Small, incremental shifts produce big changes.

So the quiz broke the news that you, too, have some things to work on, huh?

Guess what—that is the best news! Now you don’t have to wait until someone else changes for your relationships to be different; you can make it happen now. You can choose an individual therapist or counselor who will help you start the process of self-awareness and relationship skill-building that can help you be your best self in all relationships. Do not be afraid to speak with several therapists to find someone who is the best fit for you.

Here are a few good ways to find someone:

• Word of mouth—find someone who really seems to have their life together and see if they’ve got a therapist to thank for it! If so, maybe they can help you, too. There is no shame in asking for help.
• Psychology Today - An online directory where you can search for therapists in your area. Often you can also see if someone is in your insurance network or not here, too (be sure to double check with your insurance carrier and the therapist to ensure this info is up to date).
• Your employer may have an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) that can refer you to therapists in your insurance network. A certain number of visits may even be free through your employer benefits (for example, in our region, Yale New Haven Health System employees have this benefit). Contact your Human Resources department or refer to your employee handbook to find out more.
• In Connecticut, you can also dial the 2-1-1 infoline or search their website to get mental health and counseling referrals.

Otherwise, here are some great tips for a strong start with a new therapist: CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE.

Important note: if you are struggling with thoughts of hopelessness, suicide, or self-harm, or are otherwise in crisis, please do not wait to get help. The National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by calling 9-8-8 or visiting their website, where you can chat or text if you prefer. For emergencies, you can always dial 9-1-1 to get immediate help.

DIY / Self-Help Resources and Information

Short on time, money or energy these days? For those of you who can’t get to a professional, there is still hope.

Believe it or not, important changes can be made even if only one spouse actively works on their marriage, especially if you suspect your own issues may be significantly contributing to the relationship dynamic.

Here are some mental health resources for individuals looking to better understand themselves:

Psychology Today - Known for its directory of therapists, but also has loads of helpful articles written by licensed professionals on a wide variety of mental health topics.

MentalHealth.gov - The federal government's resource page on all things mental health.

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)'s website has loads of helpful articles and resources, not only for those with diagnosed mental health conditions.

Disclaimer: Please note that the above links are not created or endorsed by me and may not be up to date. These links are offered as informational resources only.

"Life does not change if you only modify the content, your life will change if you will dare to alter the context."

- Santosh Kalwar